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  Quite frankly,  this post is very long overdue,it has been sitting in my drafts for months!!. So I generally get compliments about my skin care routine and all sorts of other things pretty much daily! And so this will hopefully answer all of those questions and give you some insight into what goes into keeping things shipshape when it comes to being body positive and self care. Skin Care On a general I get asked the most questions about my skin especially body skin sadly my face is one shade darker and one or two small pimples grace it on a weekly 😂! I am very lucky to have quite clear skin for the most part – although I am very much prone to monthly breakouts and the odd allergic reaction to certain products!! When  I keep hydrated the face cooperates. If I  take my make up off in good time, I really do favour washing off with water (and lots of it) over most other things, and all this combined probably helps keep my skin looking pretty go...

So I have been getting lots of questions about what body positivity  is all about. So I will try and be simple as I can.. Positivity loosely entails characteristics such as certainty, acceptance and affirmation. These characteristics are basically hard to uphold everyday. I guess that is why it has become an everyday mantra in our society so we get constant reminders. The #positivity  has an excess of 14 million hits on the gram. Some might look at it as an irritating personality quirk. However, positivity is seen by the things you  do not  say. Being positive does not mean being happy all the time. Just like life itself it is never linear.The positivity phenomenon is not new.  The idea that changing yourthoughtssf65z6fcan change your reality is one of the cornerstones of Buddhist teachings. It  also goes back to as far as the 60s  when the United States was promoting  women rights and black civil rights emancipation. ...

Below is a blog post that i wrote at 10pm nursing my sore  thighs spread  wide apart hot, red, purple and lumpy...Been walking all day in a dress and oh boy I ended up walking like John Wayne 😂Friction really can do me bad sometimes. Today lets just bare it all. Big girl  I know its a quite sensitive topic, and to some, it has affected your intimacy  game. You have created walls and barriers.    Your walls are high because you’re tired. Tired of giving and following your heart, only to end up disappointed and alone. You’re tired of opening up, only to be rejected once again. You’re tired of putting yourself out there, only to be rejected and/or insulted because of the jet black inner thighs. I do not blame you for such, fellow human beings have always spewed negative things. We are a product of socialization. The brain just stores it all, especially the vile content. As for my fellow country men they are quick to be health practitio...

NB: This is going to be a jumbled read. Beloved, I hope I wont lose you in this maze!!! Dealing with grief is never  easy  I have been  down in a bottomless pit All I feel is darkness and emptiness Emotions all over, I wail from time to time. Easy Breakdown? Is this the new me. I ponder. I don't wanna dress up or do any make up. Just get up bath and be basic is my new instinct. The back of my mind reminds me that I should write a blog but I fail. I postpone.  I just wanna hide  and be far from the madding crowd. The loss, the pain, the drama and the emotional burden. I feel like I can never revert to normal. Can I just default back to my normal?? I drink, I smoke but does that take away the sad reality. I lied to myself  that I am a composed being, Everyone surely does have a breaking point. This entry has been in the drafts for a whooping three months. Procrastination has became the story of my life😕. I am struggling with deadlines anyway. Go well my darl...

Dear Body, I am Sorry I am sorry for hating you I feel pathetic for hiding you I wanted you to be smaller  I wished I could put you on a collar You have been broken and bruised Yet you recovered and healed  Your resilience and strength is outstanding How could I hate something so amazing Your stretchmarks are a mere natural marvel Your saggy boobs are to be some baby's citadel Your thunder thighs and wide hips are a wonder to hold Dear Body, I hope you forgive me   So  yesterday we were celebrating human rights day in South Africa. Took the ample time to reflect and refresh. So I was previously trolled again. Indeed one can never get used to the toxic levels in our society. Remember in one of my previous posts I mentioned how its equally hard to stay afloat with so much fat shaming happening. Anyhow, whining wont take me anywhere. Why not use it to invoke my creativity? Plus sized bloggers and models have been making serious waves within the fashion industry ove...

Just like dating, getting intimate with someone new is a little nerve-wracking for everyone  and this not limited to intercourse. Kissing, cuddling or anything that requires physical closeness can cause anxiety. And if you don’t like your body, it’s virtually impossible to imagine someone else could. In the past, I have apologized to partners for gaining weight. I’ve even apologized for not being super-confident, since confidence is oh-so-sexy. It’s one thing to be vulnerable and admit your insecurities about your body; it’s an entirely different thing when you apologize simply for having a bigger body.  But then apologies for your body have no place in your intimate life. If you’re self-conscious, then you’re more likely to turn the lights off during sex, keep your top on, and avoid wearing lingerie, which is absolutely unacceptable. Speaking about lingerie I have aligned myself with Geesgorgeous http://geesgorgeous.catalog.to   they have a great as...

Can i burn my bra already.Heck to be honest a major share of us have  experienced the pure, unadulterated pleasure of taking a bra off after a long, exhausting day, and maybe we’ve gone braless around the house to give our boobs a break (well deserved vacation lol). To think that i am late 'bloomer' who once was obsessed with getting bras quite a lot feels like dry joke. I have been raised around bra wearing women,going bare has never been an option. But do i understand the importance? Perky, saggy, fallen and droopy. Boobs come in all shapes and sizes though some seem to be more  equal than others. Today am just going focus on the disadvantaged saggy boobs better known as flip flops/ fallen heroes in my community. The coined terms clearly impose self loathe. They basically show put them across as disgusting, not sexy and somehow a turn off. The breasts are completely vertical — unfashionable and unsightly by all manner of beauty standards created by th...

I can't believe it's been so long without writing a single blog entry. I have been swallowed by the ups and downs of this overwhelming  life. Made me realize how it relates to self appreciation. You look at yourself and start questioning yourself  because wow self-love isn’t linear and there are good days and bad days. Sometimes I am convinced  that my image and my body is the sole reason for my loneliness🤣  I would cry every day because of the huge pile of flesh smirking at me  in the mirror.                          Now that got me reflecting about my first bikini shoot as a plus size model. i was tense even though i was in a comfortable space. i tried so hard to keep hiding myself behind the rob much to the irritation of the photographer. Thus as I had anticipated it cost me a shoot with a particular lingerie brand. Now as I write many ideas cross my mind as to how I could have done things diff...

simple yet versatile Timeless and ageless so is the little black dress in my spare time i still find myself some little poetic lines. i miss doing public speaking. All these memories been brought back by my little black dress. Besides, the fact that i am a lover of short dresses this lil black number is at heart. Nothing beats the confidence under your own skin.. in a lil dress😊. Any thick girl can relate to the freedom that comes with taking a day off the jeans 😂. Its a day off jumping and squeezing yourself into one tight jean. So today as i gloat with my little number( allow me to), I have decided to share some fashion tips with my fellow thickums. T he little black dress is a wardrobe must have. if you are like me ( pretty good at showing off) go for something that will accentuate your curves. This means its imperative that you get to know your body shape. The perfect little black dress is a fashion staple. It’s versatile, working hard from day to nigh...

From top to bottom I have always wanted to be flawless. We all wish for perfection don't we. Why don't we understand that genetics can't be antagonized. Do I have to apply filter in every picture I take. I ponder. I know I am beautiful but these lines are lighter than my complexion. I call them my straw coloured waves. Believe me I hate them. Hate is even superficial, I loathe them. I am ashamed. Ignorance?  pure bliss or plain stupidity In my early years I would laugh and troll people with stretch marks. To make matters worse in my society people would say that it's a sign/ indicator of sexual prowess. OH MY God really , so we got Goddesses strutting in this little country, I would laugh my lungs out. I don't know who had appointed me to be a judge . Little did I know that this sporty figure was going to change for good. It jus had to lie in wait for me post my seventeenth birthday. Boom the wavy, ugly ( so I thought) lines made it to my boobs. For God...

So Donatella Versace has for the first time included three plus size models in her troupe. What a time to be alive in the year of covid!!!!.  Fenty also had my huge heart leaping. The different bodies well represented for both genders. Lizzo is a part of it too. Finally things are taking shape right. But my huge heart hurts. I have always wanted to be a model . I have never felt confident. As I write this I am reflecting on one of the opportunities I let pass by. I chickened out. I thought I wouldn't be enough and competitive. I thought my curves, humps and ridges wouldn't be really sexy  strutting/ posing in a bikini.  There is this inner voice that asked me:How could I make it without even trying. Why was I chickening out but what will people think of me became my everyday answer. As an individual I thought I was confident. I used to  be a public speaker for Christ sake. I have always loved the camera ( much to the annoyance to my boyfriend😊).   I felt p...