LaThickums

  As i reach out for my PC to enter this blog post am not really sure how my entry is going to affect the next person. But then, lets bear in mind these are just personal views. We are all entitled to opinions aren`t we? When i began blogging i told myself this is going to be a platform for sharing my thoughts,feelings, views and emotions. i just come through as one fat girl with no writing background whatsoever. Am just a town planner who is just about to become an urban designer.😊 Anyway, that is a story for another day. today i just want to let out my frustrations . Why is being fat associated with being ugly?No matter how sincere or pure your intentions are. I am tired of people telling me ' oh you are not fat,you are beautiful'. Oh boy the toxic levels in this backhanded compliment, i cant breath. Of course i never said i am ugly. please try and unlearn such tendencies. fat is a noun, fat is a mere adjective. In the midst of my tiredness/bitterness i have learnt to love

Oh well in all honesty I have never considered myself a blog fanatic neither am I a writer. However, the lock down period got me undergoing a lot of self introspection. Corona virus is evidence enough that tomorrow is never promised.Take initiative whilst you can. Voila, this thick person decides to settle on plus body positivity blogging. Thus Lathickums was born. Being plus size, being fat, being chubby has always been associated with negativity. I have gone through many situations of body shaming ever since I started gaining weight in my late teens. I am human I have broken down a couple of times. I have shyed away from gatherings be it friends or family. I have tried to always keep myself fully covered because they had told me I was fat and disgusting. Sometimes they give backhanded compliments like: you know you would look better when you shed off those excess pounds. I have lost lovers and suitors along the way. I have harbored unnecessary anger and hatred. Believe m