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So I have been getting lots of questions about what body positivity  is all about. So I will try and be simple as I can.. Positivity loosely entails characteristics such as certainty, acceptance and affirmation. These characteristics are basically hard to uphold everyday. I guess that is why it has become an everyday mantra in our society so we get constant reminders. The #positivity  has an excess of 14 million hits on the gram. Some might look at it as an irritating personality quirk. However, positivity is seen by the things you  do not  say. Being positive does not mean being happy all the time. Just like life itself it is never linear.The positivity phenomenon is not new.  The idea that changing yourthoughtssf65z6fcan change your reality is one of the cornerstones of Buddhist teachings. It  also goes back to as far as the 60s  when the United States was promoting  women rights and black civil rights emancipation. Body positivity now goes beyond phys

Below is a blog post that i wrote at 10pm nursing my sore  thighs spread  wide apart hot, red, purple and lumpy...Been walking all day in a dress and oh boy I ended up walking like John Wayne 😂Friction really can do me bad sometimes. Today lets just bare it all. Big girl  I know its a quite sensitive topic, and to some, it has affected your intimacy  game. You have created walls and barriers.    Your walls are high because you’re tired. Tired of giving and following your heart, only to end up disappointed and alone. You’re tired of opening up, only to be rejected once again. You’re tired of putting yourself out there, only to be rejected and/or insulted because of the jet black inner thighs. I do not blame you for such, fellow human beings have always spewed negative things. We are a product of socialization. The brain just stores it all, especially the vile content. As for my fellow country men they are quick to be health practitioners and diagnose you with a

NB: This is going to be a jumbled read. Beloved, I hope I wont lose you in this maze!!! Dealing with grief is never  easy  I have been  down in a bottomless pit All I feel is darkness and emptiness Emotions all over, I wail from time to time. Easy Breakdown? Is this the new me. I ponder. I don't wanna dress up or do any make up. Just get up bath and be basic is my new instinct. The back of my mind reminds me that I should write a blog but I fail. I postpone.  I just wanna hide  and be far from the madding crowd. The loss, the pain, the drama and the emotional burden. I feel like I can never revert to normal. Can I just default back to my normal?? I drink, I smoke but does that take away the sad reality. I lied to myself  that I am a composed being, Everyone surely does have a breaking point. This entry has been in the drafts for a whooping three months. Procrastination has became the story of my life😕. I am struggling with deadlines anyway. Go well my darlings, you have made me lo

Dear Body, I am Sorry I am sorry for hating you I feel pathetic for hiding you I wanted you to be smaller  I wished I could put you on a collar You have been broken and bruised Yet you recovered and healed  Your resilience and strength is outstanding How could I hate something so amazing Your stretchmarks are a mere natural marvel Your saggy boobs are to be some baby's citadel Your thunder thighs and wide hips are a wonder to hold Dear Body, I hope you forgive me   So  yesterday we were celebrating human rights day in South Africa. Took the ample time to reflect and refresh. So I was previously trolled again. Indeed one can never get used to the toxic levels in our society. Remember in one of my previous posts I mentioned how its equally hard to stay afloat with so much fat shaming happening. Anyhow, whining wont take me anywhere. Why not use it to invoke my creativity? Plus sized bloggers and models have been making serious waves within the fashion industry over the past couple of

Just like dating, getting intimate with someone new is a little nerve-wracking for everyone  and this not limited to intercourse. Kissing, cuddling or anything that requires physical closeness can cause anxiety. And if you don’t like your body, it’s virtually impossible to imagine someone else could. In the past, I have apologized to partners for gaining weight. I’ve even apologized for not being super-confident, since confidence is oh-so-sexy. It’s one thing to be vulnerable and admit your insecurities about your body; it’s an entirely different thing when you apologize simply for having a bigger body.  But then apologies for your body have no place in your intimate life. If you’re self-conscious, then you’re more likely to turn the lights off during sex, keep your top on, and avoid wearing lingerie, which is absolutely unacceptable. Speaking about lingerie I have aligned myself with Geesgorgeous http://geesgorgeous.catalog.to   they have a great assortment of plus size li

Can i burn my bra already.Heck to be honest a major share of us have  experienced the pure, unadulterated pleasure of taking a bra off after a long, exhausting day, and maybe we’ve gone braless around the house to give our boobs a break (well deserved vacation lol). To think that i am late 'bloomer' who once was obsessed with getting bras quite a lot feels like dry joke. I have been raised around bra wearing women,going bare has never been an option. But do i understand the importance? Perky, saggy, fallen and droopy. Boobs come in all shapes and sizes though some seem to be more  equal than others. Today am just going focus on the disadvantaged saggy boobs better known as flip flops/ fallen heroes in my community. The coined terms clearly impose self loathe. They basically show put them across as disgusting, not sexy and somehow a turn off. The breasts are completely vertical — unfashionable and unsightly by all manner of beauty standards created by the